We’re Blaming the Kid Instead of Fixing the Problem

In this episode of the Thinklete Podcast, Derek Shunk sits down with Dr. Ross Greene, author of The Explosive Child and Lost at School, to rethink discipline, behavior, and defiance.

Dr. Greene explains his core belief: kids do well if they can. When they struggle, it’s not about motivation—it’s about unmet skills and unsolved problems.

They discuss why behavior is a signal, why punishment and rewards often fail to build skills, how environment impacts regulation, and how collaborative problem solving can help parents, coaches, and educators move beyond power struggles. 🧠